Let’s chat for a moment about being a mom and an introvert. I often feel that in a culture that caters more to extraverted people, it’s a little more difficult for us introverted mamas to chat about our lives. Talking may not be the easiest thing for us introverts, but there is another way. Writing, on the other hand, is has always been by outlet (easier than talking), so let’s start a dialogue about being an introverted mama.
I used my mornings to recharge and get ready for my days full of children and parents. I used to teach early childhood special education and seeing as I was an introvert, that profession was a bit of a challenge for me from time to time. However, I was always able to find rest and peace with some quality “alone time” outside of the classroom.
Fast forward a few years to one of the happiest moments of my life, becoming a mom to my sweet Emmaline. This day was one of the best of my life and I instantly fell in love. It was also the first of many days that I found myself no longer having any alone time. She was always by my side and while it has been an amazing journey, it has also been a struggle.
When do I get time alone? When can I steal some time away for just me? When I finally do get a little alone time, my mind is racing, thinking of all the things I need to get done, trying to decide what to tackle first. When in reality, the most productive thing I could do with my time would be to take a walk, read a book or just sit and watch nature. Activities like these allow me to recharge and be ready for the many words my children and husband will say to me as soon as I emerge from my introverted hiding place.
Finding that balance between doing all the things and just being has always been a struggle for me, but now as a mom, that struggle is more intense. Don’t get me wrong – If a fellow introverted mama had told me how hard it can be to be an introvert and a mom, it would not have changed my mind at all. I adore my family and my life, but I feel that maybe a few tips on how to find alone time in my introverted cave would have been an amazing help to this mama.
I would love to hear from all of you introverted mamas out there. What do you do to recharge? How do you find your alone time in the midst of your busy family life?