It appears to be that time… my little guy is about 2.5 years old, and already more than half of his playgroup since birth is fully potty trained. Not just the girls, but the boys too. I’m starting to feel a little weird having to take diapers to Mother’s Day Out. With two kids in (cloth) diapers, I’d definitely welcome at least one of them moving to underwear.
We’ve had the supplies for a while: we have two potty chairs, and a special potty seat for the “big potty”. We got him some ridiculously cute Flip training pants, which he wore for a day very happily until he learned they were related to the potty. Now he will not wear them. We’ve watched the Potty Power DVD over and over.
I am afraid we missed the boat when it comes to enthusiasm for big boy underwear, too. He picked some with robots that he was very excited about for a while. He held them up to some of his daddy’s underpants to compare how similar they were. But it was night time, the underwear needed to go in the laundry before wearing, and by morning the enthusiasm was gone. Huge fail!
I have read and re-read the supposed “signs for potty readiness”, which are essentially:
- able to pull pants up and down (yes)
- can identify when diaper is soiled (yes, although he often lies about it so he can play longer)
- does not poop at night (for about 6 months or more)
- can go long periods of time dry (even naps, yes)
- expresses a desire to do things independently (“I got it!”, yes)
He has told me lately, completely unbidden, “Mommy, poop and pee go in the potty”. But he has also told me, “No potty. Diaper change!”. One toddler, two contradictory messages.
So how do I know which voice to listen to? Is it time for potty learning or not?
I know The Potty Boot Camp is an option. But I also don’t want to make the potty into a battleground by forcing him too early. I want this to be a fun step toward being a big boy. My gut feeling is that he probably isn’t ready. I’ve had a few more experienced moms tell me to wait, that it’s OK wait until he is ready.
The hardest, as usual in parenthood, is the waiting and the comparing. Waiting for my child to take the next step and trying very hard not to compare him to his peers who have already taken that step. Trusting his instincts and my own. Knowing that what works for others might not work for him, or even for his sister when she is older.
I’m looking forward to sharing our journey with you all over the next months (years?). I’ll keep you updated on the steps we take through this blog. And I’d love to hear your advice and encouragement along the way!
Jenny Bradford is a mom to two cotton babies, Little Sir born Oct. 2009, and Little Lady, born Feb. 2011. She lives in the Dallas, TX area with her husband, Christian, and can be found at Conscientious Confusion – a blog about living consciously, which often encompasses: green living, natural health, conscientious consumerism, cloth diapering, and living frugally.